TEENS AND ROLE MODELS 5,  AND MY WORDS AGAINST YOUR WORDS.

                                       

 
As parents, we can directly or indirectly influence our children's choice of model. We can assist them in making a decision that will have a significant impact on their lives.
 
The first step is to cultivate wonderful relationships with other families that share your beliefs and values. This is more of a blueprint for them to follow.
 
Discuss positive, inspirational heroes from stories and everyday life. Let them know what makes them distinctive, why they are worth emulating, the problems they've faced and how they overcame them, and even the price they had to pay to get to where they are today.
 
At times, you may also show them the reverse model, allowing them to see their own accomplishments and how well they are doing in their own field.
 
You should also bring out what is wrong with them, how it contradicts your value system, why they should not emulate them, and the likely repercussions of doing so.
 
Show them your own role model and why you have chosen them. What did you learn from them? How following them influenced you? What do you want to imitate, and why?
  
By doing all of these things, you are influencing their thoughts so they can choose the proper model to follow.
 
 Furthermore, you can also direct them to someone they can immediately follow after doing your due diligence.
 
You know what? You are the best individual for the job.
Yes, you are capable of doing the task.
 
 

*MY WORDS AGAINST YOUR WORDS.*

                                       

 
Years ago, there was a case of sexual molestation involving a girl who, despite the fact that she was talking about it, no one believed her. She was even punished for speaking the truth. Another girl said to me, "God forbid, with my dad, it's my word against your words."
 
That statement stayed with me. She is convinced that her father will trust her and, hence, protect her and not leave her at the whim of another.
 
Another young girl recently complained bitterly about how a certain neighbor of theirs was making a report about her to her uncle, with whom she lives. Unfortunately, it's always been a lie, and she's left wondering what he hopes to gain from it all.
 
When she was complaining again, the man had done the same thing, and she had told the uncle emphatically that she would never greet the man in question again since he was focused on getting her into trouble with her uncle.
 
As a result, I asked her a blunt question. Was he asking you out? She replied in the negative, but her body language already betrayed her. She left before we could finish what we were working on.
 
Parents and guardians, please pay attention to what your children and wards are saying. It may not make sense, but if you listen attentively, you will hear more than just words. They're saying something more profound.
You can only read between the lines if you pay attention. 
I know some people believe these young people cannot be trusted; they may be lying, most likely because they lied at some point for reasons you have failed to examine and comprehend.
 
This is not to indicate that you should believe everything they say is a lie. This misconception has caused irreparable damage to many people's lives. If someone had listened and trusted them, this may have been prevented. Could you please probe further and do your own investigations so that we do not add another number to the statistics?
 
If you believe and respect other people's words against your children, you've just made them a easy prey.
 
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I am Pastor E O Gabriel.
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