BUILDING RESILIENT IN CHILDREN 1-4

 

*BUILDING RESILIENT IN CHILDREN*

                                       

                                    
Resilience is the ability to withstand and bounce back from difficult life events. In recent times, the case of young people committing suicide has become more common.
 
A lot of the time, it's because they do not know how to deal with the challenges life throws at them. 
 
Life is full of ups and downs. No matter how we try to protect and help our young people, it's impossible to shield them from all that life will throw at them. Therefore, the onus is on us to prepare them to face life with strength and skill.
 
What would they do when they find themselves in unpleasant situations, when they fail, experience loss, rejection, setbacks, disabilities, or are even bullied?
 
My favorite quote as a young boy  has always been *Your ability to make the center hold in the mist of discord is what makes you a man*  This was my anchor as a young man, and it kept me going in the mist of it all.

Building that ability to thrive in spite of everything is the purpose of resilience skills.
 
Come with me.
 
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Lack of resilience in children can lead to unhealthy habits and behaviors. Those who lack this skill get easily overwhelmed; they dwell on problems, using unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with life issues. This makes it difficult for them to recover quickly from setbacks.
 
The good news is that resilience is learnable. Today, let's look at one of the ways to build resilience in children.
 
*Supportive Relationships.* God did not create a world where we would face our challenges alone. That's the reason he created Eve for Adam and put the lonely in families.
 
Children who do well in the face of adversity have strong relationships with the important adults in their family and peers at large. This helps to build strong values and prevents them from troding that destructive path in the bid to get love and attention.
 
The first is a strong bond between parent and child. This bond is the foundation upon which other relationships will be built. If you don't have a formidable relationship with your children, it's time to build one.

Then help them build good relationships with their peers. Connecting with others helps us find the needed support in terms of our needs.

*How connected are you to your wards?*
 
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Man is an emotional being. He can feel it. We feel different emotions daily. It could be positive or negative. It has nothing to do with gender or age.
 
Emotions in themselves are not bad; it's the way we respond to them that's important. They are signal buttons that something is going on in our bodies, just like a headache is a pointer that something is out of place in our body.
 
Another way to help build resilience in children is to teach and allow them to name their emotions. That's to *identify their feelings*
 
Let children identify their emotions, be they positive or negative; don't shut them up for feeling negative. Don't sermonize them when they name their emotions; rather, empathize with them and explore their emotions with them. 
 
The most important thing is that emotions don't take charge of them and lead them into trouble. That's why building a bond with them is important.
 
Let them be free to say I am angry or sad. Otherwise, they will be suppressing their emotions and lying to you about themselves. The day they explode, it might be extremely

 destructive. 

*BUILDING RESILIENCE IN CHILDREN 4 (OPTIMISM)*

 

Life is all about interpretation. The way we interpret events shows how we would also respond to them. 

 

Being optimistic means maintaining a positive outlook. Children who are resilient interpret challenges and experiences in a way that gives them control and confidence.

 

*They can always spot the silver lining in every cloud*. Even if they experience loss, they focus more on what is left and how to make the most of it than on putting all their attention on what is lost and wasting energy on what they cannot control.

 

Pessimism is the opposite of optimism. People who are pessimistic never seem to see any *silver lining in any cloud*. It leads to hopelessness and withdrawal.

 

Pessimistic people personalize the bad side of life. It's always their fault. They also generalize every negative event and always expect the worst.The funny side of it is that children pick this mostly from adults. *They take after you. What kind of model are you?*

Pastor E O Gabriel. 
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